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Funfetti is trying to defy the evils of writer's block one project at a time.

Red Velvet is a quirky little cupcake trying to channel her inner writer.

Red Velvet #6: Favor #WEverb11

Favor.

What was your favorite month of 2011? Why did it beat out all 11 other months?


Would it be strange to choose December, even though the month just started? It’s the month I look forward to every year. Aside from the obvious (Christmas!), there are all these other traditions in my life that I get excited about…

 

Every year one of my college roommates throws a party filled with good food (her dad’s chicken salad is amazing) and singing Christmas carols around the piano in her living room. She started inviting us our senior year of college (I think) and we’ve been going ever since.

 

My best friends and I have our own holiday dinner where we pick a fancy restaurant, get all dolled up and exchange presents.  Then inevitably, we go to someone’s house afterwards and talk for hours.  We’ve all been so busy this year.. so it makes the times when we can all get together extra special.

 

My cousins and I decided to do a Secret Santa gift exchange this year.  Partially to save money (just being honest!) but I actually think it’s a lot of fun.  My person is someone I tend to get gift cards and sweaters for but this time, I put some extra thought into it and I’m really excited to see the expression on his face when he opens his gift.  

 

And course, the vacation days.  I always take the last week and a half of December off.  I’ve already got trips into the city planned, might go see a musical and other Christmas parties to go to.  It’s nice to actually have time for myself and not have to think about work (or commuting).  


The festivities officially begin this weekend.. and I can’t wait!

Funfetti #5: Befriend #WEverb11

Befriend.

Did you meet any new friends this year? How did they impact your 2011?


As I’ve gotten older, I’ve realized just how hard it is to make friends. It’s almost as hard as dating. One of you may have more expectations, the other may push a little bit more, life gets in the way, etc. It all takes patience really, and the right person. Since my husband and I moved to our house, a state away from all my friends and the people we were most social with (my husband is more of a loner), we haven’t had much luck in the friend department. It’s kind of sad actually. It’s a pain in the ass to come visit us, we are the ones who always have to plan the parties or invite people over (we also did this when we lived at our parents’) and after awhile, it didn’t seem like much of it was reciprocated.

While it’s not as taboo now, I do find that it’s easy to meet people online. In fact, I did meet two online Twitter buddies this year and it’s been excellent. Really. I always wish they were closer or there was more time to hang out because sometimes I just feel like they get me.

In another strange twist of fate, I was lucky enough to maintain contact with two people I’ve met in person once. One, many states away, at a friend’s wedding. And another after we connected online, met at an event, and just kept on chatting. I don’t think I could get through the day without the two of these people, and I am so thankful for both of their friendships. We have so much in common, challenge each other, work well together, and just care about each other. (I really hope we’ll be able to meet up again in person soon!)

The other story is a bit odd as well. My husband met one of his (now) best friends when he was going to a certain food counter service every Friday for lunch. This guy was a manager, and they just hit it off. We ended up inviting the manager and his wife-to-be to our wedding, where I met them both for the first time. And almost 10 months later, it feels like we have known them forever. Since my husband and I have only lived together in a house far away from everyone else, we’ve never had the chance to be friends with people who are so laidback and will call us on a Wednesday to have dinner on the same night. It’s a crazy notion to us, and we always joke that this couple must be out to get us because no one is this nice. It’s also one of the reasons why the possibility of leaving the state is even sadder. We don’t want to leave them. We don’t want to not be able to hang out, and only see each other once awhile. But I guess we’ll see what happens with that…

You know, I’ve been very lucky my whole life. My best friends are people I’ve known since I was a little kid, and after that, two girls I’ve known since college. I’m good at making friends and if I do say so myself, I’m good at keeping them. I was out with one of my coworkers this weekend and she said something to me about a person who was a “networker”… she helped other people meet others. I can’t help but feel like that sometimes, and wish I had more opportunities where I live to be that person. I also just wish new people would sort of let their guard down and be open to new people. It’s a horrible thing to feel lonely, and I feel like a lot of our time in our home has been about dealing with that.

I just wish people were aware of how they treated others, and how just like anything else, friendships take work and time and a certain level of commitment.


On the other hand, I’ve seen this year that with some patience, people will come through when you least expect it. I really hope the ones I’ve been able to get to know recently become lifers. That wouldn’t be a bad thing at all.

Sleeping to Dream: Week #2

Funfetti:

Maybe it’s because we are actively recording our dreams this month, but I don’t remember many of them at all. Little pieces here and there but nothing to write a paragraph about. It’s weird since remembering my dreams is normally “my thing”. I did manage to have two though.

Dream #1: I am in the mall (surprise, surprise) and I am looking at this hideous cropped cardigan with ruffles on it. They look like pieces of a Hawaiian shirt or something. I walk out of the store without buying anything, and am super proud of myself. Then I see my dad across the way, wearing a big cardboard box that is supposed to look like a Dots candy box. He is with two other people (??) who have smaller boxes on as well. It seems you can interchange the design of the boxes with one sticker and be another candy box. Was it Halloween? I have no idea.

Frankly, this one makes me feel a little crazy. I have no idea what it means. Maybe that my dad has to go through some sort of transformation? He was happy and proud in the dream, and obviously he had some friends. Still thinking about this one.

Dream #2: Mr. FF and I are on vacation. We are walking through a restaurant and I spot a friend from high school. Now, I was never really friends with this person but we were in a club together and therefore, spent a lot of time together. We have since lost touch, but I see her updates on Facebook and she has gotten married and had a baby in the last year. She is sitting at the table with her daughter, who is so freaking cute. She tells us we should join her for dinner, and Mr. FF & I look at each other and at first refuse, but then she insists. Like REALLY insists. So we sit down, and our waiter is John Corbett (Aidan from Sex and the City). We get our food, and seriously – she totally ignores us. Mr. FF and I share a look like: WHY THE HELL DID SHE INVITE US TO SIT HERE IF SHE’S NOT GOING TO TALK TO US. Gradually, a few other high school people come and sit down – including the girl’s best friend who I was VERY close to in high school – they don’t say much either. In fact the girl I was close to gives me the shittiest wave I have ever seen and they all start crying. Because married/mother girl is going back to her home (she lives in Australia) and they won’t see her for a long time. Meanwhile, we are still wondering why we are sitting there. Although, Mr. FF loves playing with the girl’s daughter.

Good luck trying to decipher this one. This could innocently be Facebook infiltrating my dream world. And me always wondering outloud how this particular person became a wife and a mother before anyone else when she seemed to lack maternal instincts? Could be it. Who knows. Cute kid though! (I should point out the kid was actually much older… probably 3 years older than what she is now.)

Red Velvet:

Dream #1: I’m in my house when I feel a small snake land on my back.  I run to my aunt who tells me to wait while she gets something (I don’t know what).  The snake is in front of me now but my eyes are closed because I’m too afraid to open them.  I’m holding it by its tail and it keeps trying to snap at my face but for some reason I can’t move my arms enough to fling it away from me.  Then I wake up (and literally jump out of bed).

My reaction to this dream surprised me.  I seriously thought for a second something was actually on me “for real” and that’s why this was happening in my dream.  So when I woke up, I felt around and quickly got out of bed.  Then felt silly for my reaction.  But that didn’t stop me from checking my comforter and sheets a second time, just to make sure.  I hope I don’t have another dream like that ever.

Dream #2: My dad walks into my room and tells me to help my cousins.  I ask, help them to do what? He points at my window and when I look outside, I see three cousins (from my dad’s side of the family that I’m not particularly close to), trying to keep our car (Honda CRV if you were curious) from sinking in like mud? Or quick sand? Possibly, both.  They keep trying to dig it out but it just keeps sinking no matter what they do.  Finally, my one girl cousin pushes the car from behind and gets it out.  (I should mention she’s like 5’1.)  Then I wake up.

This dream made no sense to me whatsoever.  Unless my sub-conscious is thinking about my dad’s latest car troubles.  The oddest part was the appearance of those three cousins in particular.  I rarely think about them, much less DREAM about them so that was interesting.  Sometimes when unexpected people show up in my dreams, I feel like I may see or hear from them soon.  I guess I’ll find out!

Operation Layla: An update

Here we are at Monday again. Funny how that happens, isn’t it? I’m working on my other blog post right now, but I wanted to take a pause from that and just write up a small update about Layla. A few weeks ago, we wrote this blog, informing you of Operation Layla, a movement started by a bunch of women (talented bloggers too!) who wanted to help Layla raise money for her upcoming surgery. Since then, over $7,000 has been raised, completely paying for her surgery and even a few other necessities related to the surgery (all remaining money will be going to a charity of her choosing).

Anyway, in case you were wondering how Layla was doing, she just updated her blog with a new post about her surgery. I thought some of you might want to read it. Check it out at Wishful Fulfillment Everyday. And if you have any more questions about her surgery and Operation Layla, please be sure to check out what Layla wrote here.

I’m so glad that everything went well for Layla and she is starting to feel better via her tweets. I am so impressed by how an online community can come together and make things happen for good people who deserve it. And at such a rapid pace too!

It’s really empowering & amazing. I hope on this Monday, you feel a little bit of that too.

Sending you all the best Layla!

Funfetti

Maintaining the Sisterhood

By: Red Velvet


One of my favorite books (and movies) is The Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants.  It’s about four best friends who have known each other their entire lives and how they stay friends as they grow up and change.  I love this story because it reminds me of my own best friends.  Except replace “their entire lives” with “since college” and remove all references to magical jeans.  But otherwise, it’s pretty much perfect in that it captures the beautiful friendship they (and we) share.  I would think most girls would relate to a story like this one.  

Lately, I’ve been realizing that’s not always true.  

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